Decades ago, I watched people go on vacation to "get away from it all." Their existing life was so stressful, that they needed to travel somewhere to "decompress."
I asked myself, why do I need to go so far away at great expense to relax? What if my life is a vacation already?
When I travel, there's no hotel room that's as nice as my house. There no cars I rent that drive as nice as the car I already own. There are no restaurants that serve meals as good as the ones I eat now.
Maybe my existing life is already a vacation! The secret lies in in not forcing things to happen or setting up a time schedule that's almost impossible to meet. Not thinking your day through leads to constant stress as you move from one disturbing thing to another. No wonder some feel the need to get away!
Most of what makes one's existing life a vacation are peace, joy and curiosity. Is your life so stressed that as you're driving, you see something interesting but you can't pull over and give that new thing more examination? Some of our greatest discoveries come this way. For example, I have stopped at new stores just to see what's inside. Do you have an extra 15 minutes to explore something? If the answer is no, it's because you feel so far behind you can't afford to stop and explore.
But what if instead of saying to someone you'll be there at 2:00 p.m. you said, "I'll be there sometime between 2-3 p.m.?" That way if something unexpected happens, you can take care of it and still be on time without being anxious.
The cable companies, plumbers and other service people schedule themselves that way, and they don't feel rushed or behind. And we tell them that's OK that they show up sometime between 2-4 p.m. Think about it.
Imagine driving calmly instead of being upset that traffic is slowing you down! And, what if you could take a few extra minutes each day to develop your friendships with people? Wouldn't that be great? We all get the same amount of time, but how do we use it?
I'm sure some would say of my going through life calmly idea that you'll lose money because things won't be created or solved fast enough.
I once worked on a project where the boss said, "Work at a pace that brings you the most JOY!" He told that to everyone. The job finished months ahead of schedule! Relaxed workers did things more carefully and made fewer mistakes and did a better job. There was less waste too.
One boss once told me, today is not about work, it's about having fun. We did have fun and the job was finished right on time.
So, while the world in general is getting more and more stressed and fatigued, you and I instead are calmly enjoying life, like you would when you're on vacation. Note that in that more relaxed state you have time to think and make better decisions. You can calmly make great decisions about your future when you're in a relaxed state.
However, there is one issue with living your life as a vacation that you may need to consider: When you do travel away from your home, what do you do with your time since you have no need to escape a stressful life? Answer: You LEARN things.
I often travel with no real fixed plans. We'll land at an airport, ask where all the locals eat, and over lunch ask people in the restaurant, "If you were from out of town like me, what would you do?" I write down their answers and we go and do those things! When we're satisfied with understanding that area, we move on. We don't schedule hotels because we don't know how long we are going to stay there. We take things one day at a time.
In addition to doing what others suggest, I also make sure I accept whatever anyone offers me and declare every day "perfect."
If you do those three things, you'll live a life of amazing serendipity which means finding valuable or agreeable things NOT sought for. Those often surprising "agreeable things" appear in abundance because you're open to them.
So, if you leave a life so stressful, it makes you sick, please contemplate this article, or more loving yet, send it to a stressed out friend.
May you have a calmer, more peaceful existence.
Oh, and please let me know how it's working for you.
By David Jurewicz, "CALM" REALTOR(r) RE/MAX Gold (00661096) 916.682.6454
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